Theories Help Us Understand

In order to understand how families operate, this week in class we got to discuss a few theories that help us explain how the family works and even help predict what the family will do.

Family Systems Theory: This theory is most often used within therapy sessions. The idea is that the family unit works as a whole. A problem that arises is not just one persons fault, but most likely a combination of family influences. Therapists like to look at how the family as a whole is influenced.

Exchange Theory: 

In relationships, we like to keep our costs lower than the rewards. Such as when all we do in any type of relationship is give, give, give... and we receive no gratification or appreciation, then we tend to burn out and the relationship may seem dysfunctional.

Symbolic Interaction Theory: This theory focuses on the idea that each family member is influenced by their interaction experiences. Culture has huge influence on the family and how they interact with one another!

Example: A man hates marriage and focuses primarily on a college degree. Soon after he falls in love and is a wonderful, devoted husband. His view on marriage has totally changed.

Conflict Theory: As the family struggles through conflicts, they are changed and deferentially characterized.

Example: The lack of money may cause conflict within the family. The relationships and dynamics change.

What theory can best describe your family?

In my family I can see mostly the family systems theory, conflict theory, and the symbolic interaction theory. In my personal relationships, I have seen some of the exchange theory.

Since many of my family members practice the LDS faith, I can see how it's principles shape who we are, what we believe, and how we interact with other family members. This makes me think of the symbolic interaction theory. Culturally, we see things a bit differently than others and that is what makes our family act a certain way.

When conflicts arise, such as contrary choices are made then parents would suggest, I notice that either the behavior, stops, escalates, or slightly deflates. The relationships can become strained or grow stronger after conflicts are resolved or put on the shelf.